Think it al through..

Sex is a powerful tool in this society. Women use it as leverage in certain situations and pretend it is somehing it is not and men, well men are just plain silly over it. There are too many misconceptions when it comes to men and sex, and women and sex. People believe that all women take sex more emotonal than men and thats not always the case. It is a scenerio that society wishes us to believe but in reality it is not the case. Men will not sleep with anyone as it is said. Unknown to many women but the majority of men despise a whore, slut, prostitute or whatever term is appropriate to use.
I remember being in this situation with an old significant other. What we had was the most incredible times of my life. I truly am still in love with this woman, however she cheated on me and in the midst of her cheating ways she contracted an std (thankfully I did not contract this disease due to my heavy condom use). Of course knowing she cheated altered everything between us. Now I believe that people are entitled to sleep with whom they wish under these two very important rules... One being that you are single and the second being that you use protection at all times.. These two things she did not follow and I realized how physically turned off I became with her. Her std is gnetal herpes and it is something there is absolutely no cure for. Of course the doctors say if I chose to use a condom there is a good chance I wont contract it but would I be willing to take this chance for love? Is love that great that I would chance my life of seual pleasures and health for love? No fucking way!!!
I made the attempt to be friends and even cuddle with this person, we still try to laugh with one another but no matter what I can not even muster a slight erection in her pressence.
Men will not sleep with just anyone....
Although I have been with scores of women I must admit that I have been a bit picky with my selection. Sex is great and even mood altering but would I insert my penis just about anywhere? Hell no!!
Aside from that topic I want to highlight what some people would do when good sex is incorporated in their life. One young lady I was involved with at one time became a bit possesive with the penis and even went as far as tattooing her vagina region to say "Mikey's Pussy". Of course I found it to be humorous and I wanted it to be flattering but it was sad and pathetic. I wanted to just hug this woman and tell her how foolish she was. We are in contact till this day and although we are no longer sexually involved, we remain good friends and understand that it was all a part of ifes experiences. The way she moved was wonderful... ahhhh the memories...
Another woman I was involved with was so involved against the advice of myself and the rules implemented (she lived with her man). She began to neglect her man his sexual rights in a relationship (both parties should have rights) and she would be so obvious in her actions as she now carried a small perfume in her bag (something she didnt do before to alter the smell) and she would carry a small bag of baby wipes (nuff said) and these were things her man was stumbling across.. She would come home with her hair unkempt and although she promised to be careful, she did not. I believe it was her way of trying to move on. I have came across so many confused women that enter the situation understanding the rules of engagement but change their tune when a new man enters their lives. I tell them, never leave the man you love for the man you like because the man you like will leave you for the one he loves.
People need to understand that if you re going to play the game of cheating on your significant other (and I do not recommend it) you have to remember a few things.....
Never alter your sex life for the worse, he will catch on...
Never use the same girlfriend for her bday night out twice in a year (lol.. yes someone does that)
Do not look for a reason to put him down now that you are getting side sex (you are not being taken serious, no matter what the side guy/girl says.. they know you are involved and could never trust you)
Do not put your heart on your vagina/penis because it is just sex.
I could go on and on but for today it will just be this.
Think about all the decisions you make thoroughly because no matter what your friends say (and do not listen to them, they do not have your best interest first) you are the one that has to deal with the consequences.. Ask my ex, she has genetal herpes for life and claims to regret the guy who gave it to her...

How it all started

I have this problem with how society views infidelities of men and women. I have a problem with how people impose their morals on others as if they have the best way in life but they are unhappy at home. Misery loves company.Before I get into my lifes story, I want to say I have bedded 500 plus women in my life. I am a 30 something year old male, and my story is honest. You may not agree with it and that is your perogative. You may be a person in these stories. I have years of experience.I always wondered why people were accepting of womens cheating ways when all she had to say was "he cheated first." Like it was a pass to cheat, so what I did was incorporate that same motto as my life mantra.... She cheated first!!!!!I remember as a young man in my teen years going through some quite tramatic events with women, I bloomed quite early, so to speak. I was sexually active at the early age of 12 and thought I was grown by the age of 16 and really believed I knew it all.. Boy was the joke on me. At the age of 17 I was believed to have fathered two children from this female. Now I must admit, I had some form of doubts and being from a great family, I would never deny these children at all. I had to drop out of school and find work because the mother who was one year my junior was so into drinking with her friends.. Too fast forward this story, she ended up deceiving me and both children were not mine. That was the end of my relationship with her and the children. Thanks to good old DNA, this also began t catapult me to become who I am.No I do not need any one to tell me all the psycho babble they will present because I do understand where my actions stem from but they are not wrong. I love bedding women and will always love bedding women. It does not interfere with work or my personal responsibilities in life.The next serious relationship I had ended up in her cheating on me a few times, one person was a co-worker of hers, some ex boyfriends, and even some guy she just met that we hired to do a service. It was funny how when I spoke to others about my unhappy home, people were concerned with they why did she cheat? Or what did I do to make her cheat? I became enraged and fully accepted my role as to who I am and what I do.I am a real life Hitch.. If you saw the movie with Will Smith then you know what I mean. I will be using this blog to tell of my many adventures with married women, single women, women in relationships and so on and so forth. You are now in for some funny moments, some moments you may not like and some moments you may know well..... Take these postings I will do often as a guide to be aware of the many people out there who are only out for a piece of ass and will use you by any means neccesary.I am a very popular man in New York, where I am from. It is so dynamic how you can bed someone and not bump into them for months, even over year if you really wanted to avoid them. In this little city there is so much to do. I LOVE NY!!!I remember this one 7 month sexcapade I had with this woman that was in a 10 year relationship with her man. We at times wouldmislead one another but not maliciously, in an endearing way. We are very good friends today and we remained honest through out the entire affair. I would have sex with with her about 4 days a week and he would never know. He would work opposite hours I did, so it was a great set-up for me. He never did figure us out. So for the recored her name will be G...G was one hell of a freak, she would perform the mere acts other women would perform but in a way that many women dreamt they could perform. When G performed oral ex on me (and she did so everytime we met) she literally would take my breath away. There were times I would lose my breath and think I would die a happy man. lolI met G at the Pureto Rican day parade (a breeding groundf or sex and unfaithful men/women) and she was with her friends and I was with mine. We met and exchanged numbers immediately. SHe didnt inform me at first that she was involved but it really doesnt matter. Women take this as a note, men that are willing to accept you as although you are in a relationship will not take you serious and if they do it 96% of the time will not work out becuase he will always question your faithfulness, obviously he has a reason to.G and I didnt initially hook up because I was very busy at the time with work and an array of women I was juggling around. All of whom were involved in relationships. One day she called me out of the blue and she had told me she thought she saw me the other da as she was passing by, it was me and she didnt think to approach because I was with a female. I told her we should hook up and she agreed. She came to my job on my break and we did lunch. The ext time we met, we were on my sofa and she was performing her classical oral sex acts. We then took our show to the bed and performed what felt like a competition. At the same time G was physically telling me something, it was as if she was telling me she was missing something. I no longer anted to just bed this women, but I wanted to make things work out for her and her man.After we went for quite a time period she had about 2 hours before her man was getting off work and I told her to nap because tonight she was to bed her man.She appeared amazed at my statement but I told her, the only way he would never find out about us is if he never saw a change in their sex life, no matter how tired she was. She complained and I told her if she couldnt follow suit that our sexcapade would be a one night stand. I have no problem moving on. I refuse to be a home wrecker.During our 7 months of sex and friendship, I helped her realize the things that were missing in her relationship. You see in G's relationship, there was not friendship, that began to die out as the roles of husband and wife took place. So there was sex between them but it was more of a duty or a role or a release as opposed to being able to become one and express love physically. So many relationships suffer this today and then the blame game comes into play. It is both roles at fault, yet no one wants to be adult enough to take hold of the responsibilites. Instead men go out with the fellas and cheat and women run to men like me and have this hope that it would be something more or to fulfill something missing at home, when in reality that something can be fixed or intrduced at home. People have to be more vocal about their relationships with their significant others.One day during a walk in a Park, G and I were feeling sexually aroused with one another's pressence and needless to say, it was quite a risk to attempt to sexually perform publically. During our time in this affair G grew to know herself much more than she has in the rest of her 30 years of life. I gave her the time to talk and I always listened. I gave her a way out of problems that werent avoidance. I gave her a chance to understand her actions, I was a great friend to her. G also became sexually daring and began to notice these changes and things were beginning to wor better at home, due to her incorporating these metheodswith me on her man and her being able to be more vocal.In the park G decided to stop me in my tracks and perform oral sex on me in front of what must have been at least 50 people. Be noted that her man worked about three blocks awy from the park. It was something I have done before and for her it was uite the daring thrill. I saw 2 people exit the park and the majority of the viewing public cold not remove the glued smiles off their faces. Neither could I for that matter. lolAs G was done performing her oral duties we took our show on the road and to the my place of residence. I think this was our most passionate moment sexually together and I know it was due to G's new found lust in life.Proudly to say that as of today G and her man have a great relationship and even had their third child. G and I love each other as friends do. She is a good person and I am so glad to help her realize what was missing in her home and glad I was able to fix it.Todays note to women.... Always express yourself honestly and if you really want to make things work with your man you have to sacrifice to do so. You can not play the blame game, accept your role and worngdoings and be willing to fix it.Todays note to men.... similar to the women but you have to at times keep the macho shit out the door when it comes to making your woman happy. Sex shouldnt be habitual but it should be an expression os passion and love between two people. If love doesnt exist, then it should be an expression of the attraction and lust between two people. Sex is great, do not make it other than great.